A lot of us have stories untold, deepest pains, silent struggles we have endured & situations that have been devastating,daring and difficult we never saw to have come to an end until we endured it.

Like tunnels, the hallows and billows outweighed the ride and peace.

If you haven’t been in a situation that left you helpless to the point of having no help nor a sense of security whether emotionally, financially and physically, you may not appreciate this.

Devil depicts objects and persons in our lives meant to harm us or turn situations against us either than our favour. They kill us basically. Our dreams, our relationship and our soundness.

Talking about the devil, 😈 who could the devil be? I have had & seen one in my life. Perhaps they might be many.

However, people are not that bad. People are nice. Others are kind. And some are sweet. But the demons in our lives have smiled with us and taken us to rooms only to destroy us. Yet, we dine, hangout with them and tell them all the secrets.

A story a good friend told me about one of her best friends that betrayed her to which she could not recover from. And in all honesty, I do not see why people closest to us should talk bad about us…I am that traditional. 😶 Why relate with me by creating a likeable impression when you dislike me in every sense of the way? “Please don’t talk me into the human nature and emotional intelligence stuff”. I understand that and appreciate Peculiarities.

However, you cannot be a friend if you are unreliable. When you speak ill behind my back and when you drain me…That is what I have decided to live by and it works. Peace of mind over doubt of love and acceptance.

2019, God showed me he was with me while he pointed out some people to me. What a relief that, I now live loving others yet knowing how to trust.

I had a situation where the person I trusted and spoke to was same stabbing and peddling untruth about me. The lies, the negative rumors and impressions were initiated by him in conversations. Always thinking for me and ahead of me negatively. As grave as what the fellow did was, I ended up gaining. I Matured and Grew. Then I Won.

It is my prayer that, God grants us discernment so we can know who is for and with us. To avoid situations, rooms and conversations meant to harm us.

What I am confident about is, the negative situations or plots end up to our advantage. So while at life, enjoy people, relationships,favours and love. The right situations and people will win.

When next you dine with a devil, know that you are Stronger and better than ‘it/them’ reason they disguise themselves. They are not fit to be on your table hence ‘faking’ it to stay with you to dine on one table.

Bury the hurt, pain and enjoy every moment. Out of them comes Growth.

Thank you for the read,like and comment.!!

Remember to Never Give Up!

08.10.21

❤️adubia

I am here riding from Tema to Accra in the Greater Accra Region of Ghana and asking myself this question: “Am I the only one who Shuts down completely sometimes?” I cannot agree enough on the essence of seasons and times.

Hey, I just got out of a season of unrest, solitude and quietness. I barely will want to hold conversations and other engagements that require of me speaking. Prior to this season I just recovered from, I was fine. Okay. Great. Good and feeling awesome.

Question I am asking myself is, what were the triggers?

Frankly, it is quite difficult to point it out or ascertain.

However, I recall being down as a result of a recent situation.

I felt disadvantaged and lied on, about a situation that should have never happened. As much as the strong me decided to brush it off and pick myself up, the emotion of being down was staring at me in the face.

Standing tall within this emotion was Hope, Perseverance and a Never Giving up Spirit.

I am one of the most optimistic people I know yet, I could not pick myself up nor put myself together.

Then, I thought of the strength inside of me. Coupled with temperament and personality of justice and understanding once in play can put me in a state of quiet.

To rest and recover for my true self to materialize.

In all this is the confidence in God, his word, his vindication and who he is. Knowing he Got me, I am at peace for fact that, he will come through.

Yet the need for immediate vindication becomes high within.

Then, he comes through to give me Total peace. I did let go.

Grateful I am able to determine the trends and keep my cool than allowing emotions and situations to cloud me.

However,I recoup to make the most of the next season as an opportunity and become a better me is crucial, and i am glad about the process.

I shut down sometimes.

Do you Shut down too?

I shut down as a way and moment of reset to come back Better. In a lot of situations. Personal and professional life through a leave of absence.

The Lord fills my life with Peace, Forgiveness, Understanding, Strength, Wisdom and Love in this Season.

Subsequently,the strength to move on makes a difference and a mark.

How do you react to bad situations?

It is okay to be down sometimes.

Just don’t stay there and use the process for a better outcome.

The Good book talks about God being with us in all situations.

Isaiah 43:2 says: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze”.

He is with You! Never Give Up!!

All Love❤️❤️❤️

***adjwoa adubia amponsah***

Compassion,a virtue I appreciated more after this encounter.As a young manager then,driving sales,coaching & facilitating trainings,ensuring discipline is key.First, it is imperative I exhibit those disciplines so it doesn’t become a struggle guiding,correcting & leading others on those trajectories.

You will not get me smiling or being soft on some issues.Though I knew at an early age every situation presented is different hence approach to situations will differ.

With time,learning & practicing more empathy,I found better ways of dealing with individuals with peculiar challenges without necessarily being hard.The past 12 months has added a lot more learning.

To my story of being Compassionate…

About an hour & 20 minutes into one of my meetings once upon a time,a lady walks in.This is someone I noticed had been late few times.I know some people struggle to adjust to the new routine so I had reiterated to the Team the need to  be on time & didn’t expect her in that day,the time she got in.

Usually,I will call you out & walk you out of meeting if you join late esp. when you happen to keep it a habit after we have had private conversations.No tattles.The keys to the meeting room at the time could not be found hence once door is shut, it can be opened.Best way was shut doors.

This day,I walked gently to the lady backseat asking challenge she has knowing she is expected to be in before time or max 15 mins after.

In her bid to tell me what the challenge was,I saw in her eyes tears she was trying to control.

As a mother,she needs to ensure her child gets care before she leaves.And so, though she gets to her toddler’s school by half past 6am, she has to wait until the teacher gets in before she can quickly rush.I nicely walked away saying to her we will talk after the class.

I was so Proud of myself for being Compassionate to this lady.It was obvious she was trying so hard yet battling many things.The pictorial me had an image of her face on my mind all week.I was Grateful I was discerning enough to be Kind to her.She ended up coming in on time after some weeks of resolving her challenge.

As a business built on structure with disciplines,for corporate & my personal principle,there is no excuse to support not being on time.While I understand situations can affect when one shows up sometimes, entertaining such does not build a Great Team.

However,I was glad I showed Compassion in this situation.It was a humbling experience.Knowing I did not add to her tears & worries brought some joy in my heart.Being elated over my kind gesture felt Great & was better than the feeling of Correcting or putting anyone right.

You cannot do Kindness too soon,for you will Never Know how soon it will be late. Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Beyond our pain,when we match Compassion with Purpose,we begin to Conquer the World.Be Compassionate yet Firm, Never Give Up on Life & Leadership!

Our Father Above, God is a Just God yet he is the Most Compassionate!

Ephesians 4:32 reads: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.”

Choose Compassion Over Passion when Leading. It sure will Pay off. 🥰 Thank you for read, like & for sharing.

Remember to Never Give Up!!

Nov. 2021 ***adjwoa adubia amponsah***